President Obama recently endorsed the idea of same-sex marriage, while the state of North Carolina voted to define marriage as the union between one man and one woman. The conversation was already happening, but these events have led to a barrage of rants and comments on the subject.
If you came looking for my comments or opinion on the subject, you’re not going to find it here. I do have a response to the issue, and I am not ashamed to share it. In fact, my responses, will most likely tip my hand. But I don’t feel like a status update, tweet, or blog post is the best way to share my views. If you wish to hear them, I would love to have a conversation with you in person or via Skype or phone. I choose not to discuss such sensitive things with anyone without being able to see them or at least hear their voice.
With that being said, the issue was too great and the activity happening on social media was too hazardous for me not to respond. I’m not responding to the issue itself, but to the conversations that it has sparked. Specifically the conversations that are taking place among Christians. Here is my plea to those of you that find time to make comments on the subject:
1. Do Not Make a Response without consulting the Bible and spending time in prayer
The majority of responses I’ve seen or heard have made flippant references to the Bible, but none have even tried to be educational or helpful. You cannot reference the Bible as a source without reading it. Stop pointing at the cover, and start showing people the pages. 2 Timothy 3:16 says,
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,”
As Christians, we have the Bible for the source of Truth for our lives, but also for the teaching of righteousness to others. For the Bible to be the powerful, effective tool that God intends, we need to be spending time in it and praying for wisdom to understand it. Don’t use the Bible as your crutch for this subject if it is not your crutch for daily life!
2. Please bury the hatred
This goes for Christians and Non-Christians. There will never be any healthy discussion or understanding when both sides approach the subject with a vile hatred for one another. If we want others to understand what the Bible says on the issue then we must approach them with respect and love. If your child was to sin, you would lovingly point them to the Bible and equip them with the Truth. Why can we not do the same on this subject?
Please read Ephesians 4:1-15.
3. Stop expecting your comments to just automatically change someone’s mind
I’ll never forget a comment from Michael Head, a pastor at my home church where I grew up. When a discussion arose about sin, Mike said,
“What do you expect from a lost world?”
His comment left an impression on me because it is true. It is ignorant for us to expect those who do not know the Truth to live by the Truth. We are all captive to sin until we experience the power of the Gospel.
Many times, we confront sin with the expectation that our crafty wit or rehearsed comments will change the minds/hearts of others. The problem is this is not our job. We are neither judge, nor ruler. Your comments can be helpful (if you keep #1 and #2 in mind), but change comes only through the revelation of the Gospel. (Please read Hebrews 1) Commit to spending as much or more time praying for the person as you spend arguing your point with them.
This conversation will not stop anytime soon, and it will likely become more intense. As a Christian, my prayer is that I am prepared (physically, mentally, and spiritually) to speak the Truth in love (without hatred for anyone) and committed to praying for God’s Will to be done in my life, as well as the lives of others.