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Why I stopped writing

October 22, 2013 — Leave a comment


As this past summer started to wind down, I got ready to ramp up my activity on the blog. I had all kinds of ideas about what I wanted to share and questions I wanted to pose to those that were following along.

I started with a few posts about the Preteen Leaders Conference, and then I felt a strong urge to stop writing. I thought it was just because I was too busy to write, but I can see that there were more reasons than that.

As I look back over the last two months, here are a few reasons why I stopped writing:

Confusion of Purpose

I have always loved to write, and I originally started blogging to share ideas and experiences in preteen ministry. After a while, I felt my focus drifting into other areas that might attract other readers or more interest in my writing. Pretty soon, I felt way out of my element and felt like I was only writing to gain an audience. I just didn’t feel motivated to keep doing it.

Life was Out-of-Whack

Have you ever reached a point in life when you just felt out of control? I’m not talking about the times when you get angry or excited and do something crazy. I mean the feeling like everything else is dictating your life and you have no control. You’re just along for the ride. That is how I was feeling. I don’t know that I would call it depression, but I certainly felt like I was sinking in really big ocean.

This feeling paralyzed me to some degree. I was late on work deadlines—and still not where I need to be. I was procrastinating—even more than is typical of me. I just felt overwhelmed, and the thought of trying to write helpful words for others seemed ridiculous. Life was just out-of-whack!


Without a clear purpose for writing and without a set of priorities in life, I felt overwhelmingly insecure.  I felt like a pubescent preteen boy trying to sing in the children’s choir. Everyone else is singing high notes and his voice is screeching and cracking off-key. It’s embarrassing and it’s really hard to listen to!

I felt like anything I wrote would be in the same category—embarrassing and hard to listen to. I felt like I was too far out of my range to really be effective and even bearable. This may or may not have been true, but I chose to stop writing because I felt very insecure about what I had to say.

So, why share this now?

Well, being honest about the past few months felt like the best way to get back on the bike and ride again. I want to post things that are helpful to others in ministry, specifically with preteens. I also want to provide a place for others to share their experiences and be a hub of creative ideas on reaching preteens/middle schoolers with the Gospel.

So, what would you like to read about?


Yesterday, I shared some reasons why you should attend the FourFiveSix Conference in April 2014. If you missed those reasons, read about them here.

Along with putting on a great conference, FourFiveSix is always producing great content to encourage and equip preteen leaders. Free Ideas is a podcast where preteen leaders share their experiences and thoughts on various topics relating to preteen ministry. They are great ideas, and they’re free!

Take a few minutes and go catch up on the Free Ideas podcast from FourFiveSix. Each episode is great, but here are links to the ones I’ve been replaying over and over for our upcoming series on Worship:

2014 FourFiveSix Conference

August 26, 2013 — 1 Comment

conference_header-600x188The biggest lesson I’ve learned in the last 2 years of Preteen Ministry is that I am most effective when I partner with other preteen leaders to share ideas and stories. The FourFiveSix Conference on April 7-9, 2014 is all about helping you make those partnerships.

The conference is 3 days worth of fun and sharing with other preteen leaders. The conference is the perfect size for you to ask questions, get one-on-one time with presenters, and talk curriculum with the creators of some great preteen ministry resources like SuperStart! and

Here are a few reasons why I think you should register now for the 2014 FourFiveSix Conference:

1. It’s a great place to start or to renew vision for Preteen Ministry

If your church does not have a preteen ministry, what are you waiting for?? When I got a job as Preteen Pastor, FourFiveSix was my first place to go for ideas on how to launch and manage a preteen ministry. Two years later, FourFiveSix consistently re-energizes me to keep dreaming of what God can do through Preteen Ministry. Whether you’re new or a veteran, FourFiveSix Conference will give you fuel for the way you serve preteens.

2. It’s helpful for every ministry—regardless of location or size

Some conferences can be so specific that they aren’t applicable to all ministries. The FourFiveSix Conference does a great job of presenting ideas that work in multiple contexts. The conference is the perfect size for you to ask questions, get one-on-one time with presenters, and talk curriculum with the creators of some great preteen ministry resources like SuperStart! and The loads of ideas, resources, and relationships that you takeaway makes the FourFiveSix Conference a super deal–only $137…and that includes 3 meals!

3. It makes you a part of the largest network of preteen ministry leaders in the world!

At the FourFiveSix conference, you’ll form relationships with other preteen ministry leaders that last far beyond the 3-day conference. When ministry is tough or you need support, you’ll have hundreds of other leaders that are just an email or phone call away. The FourFiveSix Conference is the place to find a family where you belong.

The FourFiveSix crew is already working on providing another stellar experience, and you do not want to miss it. Run on over to and register your team for the 2014 FourFiveSix Conference.

 Click Here for 2014 FourFiveSix Conference Registration

What is Worship?

July 17, 2013 — 1 Comment


It’s been a busy summer of ministry, family and planning. I’m really excited about the direction God is leading our curriculum for preteens this year. After we spend a few weeks getting acquainted and explaining the important of our small group community, we’re planning to launch a series on worship. The goal is to help preteens discover what worship is and what it is not. We want them to find news ways to worship and really embrace it has a lifestyle instead of a Sunday morning event.

One of the things that we’re going to wrestle with in this series is: What is Worship? I’ve heard some great definitions and examples for worship, but I’d like to know how would you define worship?

When you have a free moment, please leave a comment that answers these questions:

1) How would you define worship?

2) What are some ways you worship?

3) What most inspires you to worship?

Your answers will help us to form a definition of worship that will help our preteens understand it more clearly. We may even use some of the answers in a lesson to show the wide range of responses that I’m sure we’ll get. If you don’t wish to leave a comment, you can email me or connect on Facebook & Twitter.