Hi, My name is Matt and I am a negative person.
Ok, so I’m not negative all the time. But I can get frustrated and become a real party pooper when things don’t go as planned. What do I mean by negative? I mean that I point out mistakes, gossip, complain, judge, and then I try to justify it. God has really been working on me in this area. He has shown me that much of my negativity and complaining comes from pride. When things go wrong, I often shift blame to others and feel like I could’ve done their job better myself. The truth is that’s not the truth. That’s the deception of pride.So here are a few things that I’m learning about negativity:
1. A negative plus a negative DOES NOT equal a positive
The truth is that you’re never negative alone. My negative attitude is always pulling someone else down with me. The complaining and gossip always involves more than me. This is the biggest problem with having a negative attitude: it’s contagious. My conviction is that my negative attitude has damaged others and caused them to sin with me.
In the same way that one negative attitude can be contagious, so can a positive attitude. There are certain people in my life that point out when I’m being negative, and they remind me of the positive. They can change the course of the conversation by remaining positive and not participating in the complaining or gossip. As I learn to treat my negativity, I’m really grateful for these individuals. 3. It’s always best to cut off negativity before it starts
I’m trying to learn to always evaluate myself first when something doesn’t meet expectations. I’ve found that I can really put things into perspective by starting with the question, “What role did my actions (or lack of actions) play in this situation?” I’m learning that most often than not, the blame rests on me. When I realize the role that my actions plays, my focus turns to reconciling instead of complaining. I’ve got a long ways to go, but God is at work. I still fail at this each day, but I’m thankful for how He is changing me and making me new.