shhhMid-August is like New Year’s for me. My calendar has always followed that schedule. First, August sparked a new year because I was a student, and now it sparks a new year because I’m in ministry.

As I start the “new year”, one of my goals or “resolutions” is to work on my communication with family, co-workers, and others.

Here are 3 phrases I want to say less this year…

I’m sorry if I offended you or hurt your feelings, but…

So much wrong with this statement. It’s a sad excuse for an apology and a poor attempt to justify my sinful behavior. I need to work on sincere apologies.

Well, I heard that…

I love gossip. I love hearing it, and I love spreading it. God has really convicted me of this and I am challenged to erase this phrase from my vocabulary.

I don’t care.

When I get overwhelmed or stressed, this is my go-to phrase. I simply shut down. I want to work on being assertive and taking initiative in those moments, instead of saying “I don’t care.”

Here are 3 phrases that I want to say more this year…

It’s ok.

I can set high expectations on other people. I am easily disappointed when those expectations aren’t met, even when they’re unrealistic. This phrase is not for other people. It is for me. I need to tell myself that “it’s ok” to take a chill pill and be content.

Can I pray with you about that right now?

I have conversations every day in which people share with me what’s happening in their life. It’s sometimes great, and it’s sometimes bad. My desire is to stop right then and there and pray with them about what God is doing.


My calendar was pretty full this past year because I said “yes” too many times. I want to be more selective about what I agree to do so that I don’t sacrifice my family time or personal health.

I’m pretty sure the man who lives under a rock in a cave on the deserted island of “Nomansland” has heard about the Chick-fil-A Appreciation Day. I fully support Dan Cathy and his business principles. After reading much about the Cathy family and learning about their heart for people, it is clear that he is a man of deep compassion. I commend Dan Cathy for his comments and his conviction. Based on all that I know of this man and his father, I honestly do not think there was any hatred in his statements. I’m sure he understood that his comments would be polarizing, but that does not equal hatred. I may take a more serious approach to this subject in a later post, but that will have to wait.

Have you ever heard of a Jesus Juke?

You really should be following Jon Acuff on Twitter and checking out his blog, Stuff Christians Like. (It’s got almost as many followers as Chick-fil-a Appreciation Day!) Jon gave the world so many great things like the “Jesus Juke.” According to Jon, a “Jesus Juke” is

“when someone takes what is clearly a joke filled conversation and completely reverses direction into something serious and holy.”

I know the whole ordeal with Cathy’s comments and Chick-fil-A is not a “joke filled conversation,” but I’ve still seen people flip the conversation to a self-righteous circus. I’ve really been amused at the “Jesus Juke” responses that I’ve seen on twitter. I don’t judge these people for their responses because there is truth to their statements, but that’s not the point. People stand in 100-degree heat for hours just to get a chicken sandwich, and then you go and pull a Jesus Juke! C’mon man, it’s just not right.

I decided to start saving some of the top “Jesus Jukes” that I’ve seen from Twitter. Here are just a few that I pulled last night…





I wish we could all order a chicken sandwich, give each other a nice side-hug, and talk about the issue. Until then, keep the “Jesus Jukes” coming!

Did you see any Chick-fil-A “Jesus Jukes” worth sharing?

As children become preteens, they begin putting massive amounts of pressure upon themselves to live up to expectations. As parents and leaders, we must begin to help them understand their failures and face them with confidence.

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design23Yesterday, I got the opportunity to have a meeting with a future volunteer for our preteen ministry. His name is Sujay. Sujay communicated an interest in serving through our church-wide recruitment, we talked a few times via email, and then we set up a meeting to chat on Sunday morning.

My goal for the conversation was to get a feel for Sujay’s skills and work experience because he had signed up to work in a tech support role. As we talked, we got onto the topic of why he wanted to serve. His answer was amazing.

He shared with me about how he was growing and maturing in his faith while attending our church. He was so excited about everything that he was learning and applying to his life. He decided to serve because he wanted to have another way to worship God. Let me repeat that. He wanted to serve as an act of worshiping God.

This guy has “IT.”  I was ready to sign him up for a lifetime commitment. And just when I thought the conversation couldn’t get any better, Sujay floored me.

He wrapped up our conversation by asking about our plan for training young leaders. He shared his desire to take what he has learned and pass it on to the next generation!

We’re less than a month away from the launch of a new ministry year. I’m so excited to see what God does through an amazing group of leaders just like Sujay.