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We recently conducted a survey with 6th grade students to find out their thoughts on the subject of sex. The survey was not intrusive, but appropriately crafted to get their honest responses. The survey results were intriguing to say the least, but one point really stood out.

A question on the survey asked preteens to note the source for the knowledge they had about sex. Overwhelmingly, the majority selected with “Media” or “Peers/Siblings.”  Based on their answers, 70%-80% of what they knew about sex came from one of those two sources. The other 20%-30% came from “school.” Only a few responses noted “Parents” as a source for their information about sex.

While this was shocking, it was not the end of their responses. A later question on the survey asked, “Who would you prefer to talk with about sex?” This question was not multiple-choice, so preteens had to write in their response. 96% of the surveys responded with either “Mom” or “Dad.”

According to this survey taken by our students, preteens are learning about sex from what the see on television and Internet. That is being supplemented by the conversations they have with their peers.

The influence of these outside sources has left preteens with questions and a desire for answers. The truth is: preteens prefer to discuss the topic of sex with their parents. Many parents would not believe this response, even if they read the surveys! Preteens recognize the wisdom and experience of their parents, and they are willing to listen.

Preteens are learning about sex. If parents are the ones owning that conversation, who is? If you are a parent or leader of preteens, how are you talking to preteens about sex?

Stay tuned this week for some tips on talking with preteens about sex.

 A few weeks back, I made a decision to put the blog on the back burner to focus on some other projects and to try and spend more time with my family. I told myself that I would wait until March 1 to post again…and it’s been a long hard wait! I’ve enjoyed the break and all that has happened. But to be honest, it’s been tough not writing and sharing everything that’s going on.

Here is an overview of the things that I’ll be sharing about in the next couple of days:

  • Preteen Leader’s Conference: I’m really excited about heading to California to meet with other preteen leaders for this event. Plus, I’ll be leading a couple of breakouts at the conference.
  • Breakout Topics: I will be previewing the breakout sessions on the blog and asking for feedback from you. This will help me focus on what will be the most help for other preteen leaders.
  • New Preteen Ministry: Much of my focus during the 2 month hiatus was on the future of 5th and 6th grade ministries at Fellowship Bible Church. I’m looking forward to showing our curriculum design, room design, and awesome new identity w/ logo. I’m excited about the plan God has laid on our hearts for our church and our satellite campuses.
  • Lots more!

 

A Call to Prayer

January 16, 2012 — 3 Comments

While in class at seminary last week, I was personally challenged and awakened. Dr. Richard Ross (@richardaross) did a great job of opening students’ eyes, but I believe it was God moving me and calling me to action.

I felt the urge to pray and to call parents and leaders to pray as well. I sat in class and heard testimony after testimony of how God moved when His people prayed. I realized that I had never experienced the presence of God in that way, but I so desperately wanted to. And I want parents and preteens to experience His presence as well. I have to admit that my prayer life sucks, but in that moment I felt like God was calling me to pray.

When God calls you to move, you move. So, at 11:00 p.m. on Thursday night I made a move. I typed a short letter to all leaders and parents calling them to unite in prayer on Wednesday, January 18. And at 11:36 p.m., I hit send and I waited.

When I woke up the next morning, I had 15 unread email messages. Between midnight and 6:30 am, 15 parents had committed to praying. And then the number just kept growing. I snapped these screenshots on Friday while I sat in class and watched the number of unread Mail messages grow… (check out the number next to “Mail” at the bottom of the screen and the time at the top of the screen)

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On Wednesday, January 18, between 11:30 a.m. and 1:00 p.m., I’m expecting well over 100 parents praying together for their families and for preteen ministry. It’s amazing to see what God has already done to turn our hearts to prayer, and I can’t wait to see what else He does!

Whether you’re a preteen parent, preteen leader, or someone who just stumbled upon this post, I want to invite you to pray with us. On Wednesday, January 18, between 11:30 am and 1:00 pm, consider taking 10-30 minutes to pray for your family and for preteen ministry.

Wherever you are, just pray. If you would like to pray with us, you can email me and I will send you a prayer guide. The prayer guide will help you to pray for specific things and will give unity to our prayers. It is our desire to see preteens love Christ and follow Him. So, on Wednesday, we will callon His name for just that.

It has been a long week being away from my wife and my daughter. It’s not that I have an unhealthy co-dependence or anything. It’s just that she is honestly my best friend, and I really enjoy being around her. Whether I’m just sitting or going, I’d rather be doing so with her.

This time away has been a little extra hard because I also miss my daughter. And for the first time in her life, I think she misses me as well.

This is where God spoke to me.

To try and combat the homesick feelings, I’ve been having a Skype conversation with my wife and daughter each day. Several times this week, my daughter has asked for me or gone to the computer and said, “Daddy?”

She misses me. She wants to talk to me. She loves me that much that even when I’ve been seemingly absent for 5 days, she still knows I’m there and wants to talk to me.  She’s only 16 months old.

Do I really miss my Father (God) and want to talk to him? If He were seemingly absent in a period of my life, would I still seek Him out and want to talk to Him? Am I even conscious that He is always there?

We laugh and joke that all the screaming and babbling my daughter does is “preaching.” But this time I think she really did deliver a message from God.