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Monday mornings are always full of evaluations and questions for me. It’s a time to review the previous weekend’s services and plan for the next. This week is packed full of busyness and just happens to be filled with more questions than normal. So, I’m asking for help.

Here is the list of my Monday morning questions. Please send me a tweet or leave a comment with your answer.

    If you could take preteens & parents away for 1 weekend and have their complete attention, what would you tell them?

    What are the top communication blockers for preteens and parents?

    What are 3 things most parents may not understand about their preteen?

    If you’re the parent of a preteen or teen, what do you wish the church would do to help you?

    What is a creative way to get families talking and interacting around faith-based topics?

If you’ve led a parent retreat, I’d love to talk with you. We are launching our Preteen & Parent Retreat in 2 weeks and I’d love to run our ideas by you. Exciting things are ahead and I can’t wait to see what God will do!


It’s Day 2 of the Preteen Leaders Conference, and I already have a bag full of ideas and notes from some great preteen leaders. Stay tuned to the blog next week, I will do a recap of the conference with detailed notes from the main sessions.

Today, I get to lead another breakout with preteen leaders on the topic of cultivating leaders. The main idea of the session will be the premise that

    The people in and around your ministry will define your ministry.

This fact may encourage some and scare the living daylight out of others! Parents, preteens, and other potential leaders will judge the ministry based upon those they see the most, which is likely the volunteer leadership you have placed in charged.

With this in mind, it is important that we create an environment that sets our leaders up to be successful in their service to God. Like a farmer provides the necessities to cultivate a good crop, we need to have a strategy for cultivating great leaders.

Here are the 8 Ways to Create a Culture that Cultivates Leaders that I will share in today’s breakout session:

    1) Set Standards and Expectations for Your Team
    2) Cast an Inspiring Vision for Your Team
    3) Build a Sense of “Family” Amongst Your Team
    4) Train Your Team Well and Often
    5) Celebrate “God-Stories” with Your Team
    6) Form a Friendship with Every Member of Your Team
    7) Provide Opportunities for Your Team to Give Input and Feedback
    7) Make Sure Every Team Member (Including Yourself) is Growing

If you would like more info on any of these, leave a comment and I’ll send you the notes from the breakout.

The Preteen Leaders Conference begins tomorrow, and I’m excited to get to lead two breakouts for some of the attendees. The first of the breakouts is titled, “Connecting with Parents of Preteens.” We will look at why it’s important to integrate the home into preteen ministry, and how we can call parents to engage in the strategy.

In preparing for the session, I dug out my notes from a study that was released a few years ago by Barna Research and The Rethink Group. Along with tons of other great findings, here is what the research found when it came to the strategy and/or expectations for parental involvement:

    • 46% of parents admittedly do not have a plan to accomplish the desired outcomes in their children.

    • 72% of parents said that the church could be a good help for the development of this plan

    • However, only half (45%) said the expectations (action plan) of the church were clear

If you don’t have a strategy to connect the home with your ministry, the question is, “Why not?”

It is clear that parents are looking at the church as a great source of training and equipping. They recognize their role in the transfer of faith to their children, and they see value in what the church can offer.

If you do have a strategy to connect the home with your ministry, the questions is, “How clearly have we communicated this strategy to parents?” and “How are we measuring the success or failure of our strategy?”

As much as parents look to the church for training, we are not doing well at meeting that demand. Stop blaming parents for not caring or not being active in their child’s spiritual development, and start communicating a strategy that they can understand and execute.

Music is something we often take for granted. Our society is so media saturated, especially with songs and jingles, that we don’t realize the impact that it is having on our brains.

The truth is that our memories and experiences are closely tied to music. You’ve probably been in a situation before when a familiar song comes on and brings back a flood of memories. It’s amazing to see how music can help us recall experiences, facts, and memories.

This video, from upcoming documentary Alive Inside, is a powerful example of music’s influence. Even in the midst of dementia, music can bring life and joy to the soul. As someone who has seen a family member suffer with Alzheimer’s, this video is such a great reminder that the joyful memories and experiences are never erased or truly forgotten.

For those that work in ministry:
How do you use music to add layers to your teaching experiences?
How can music help children/preteens/students/adults recall Biblical teaching at later dates?