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I recently had the awesome opportunity to write a 4-week Easter series titled “King of Kings” for Preteenministry.net. Here is the promotional description of the series:

The resurrection of Jesus Christ is the most significant event in all of history. This Easter, help preteens learn much more about this supernatural event. King of Kings is a 4-week series that shows how Jesus was the Coming King, the Servant King, the Resurrected King, and the King of Kings. From the fulfillment of Old Testament prophesy to His ascension into heaven, this series is designed to lead preteens to a deeper faith in Jesus as their King.

Each lesson in the series includes: opening games, PowerPoint slides, large group messages, small group activities, and small group discussion guide. The series is available as an instant download for only $25. I encourage you to go get it!

The series from PreteenMinistry.net is a great deal, but if you’re like me you love freebies! So, here it is. Below is a free download of one of the lessons from the series. This lesson focuses on the events that occurred days and even hours before Jesus’ death. It includes a small group activity to help students fully understand all that Jesus experienced.

FREE DOWNLOAD: King of Kings (The Servant King)

Remember to check out the rest of the series at PreteenMinistry.net

Survey Says…

March 27, 2012 — Leave a comment


One of the most beneficial practices that we have in our preteen ministry is the use of surveys or questionnaires. Following each unit, we pass out a questionnaire that usually includes 10-12 short-answer questions. The purpose of the survey is to think how they will apply what they learned in the previous unit and to get them thinking about the next unit’s topic. These surveys have created an effective evaluation process for what we teach and how we teach.

Here are a few ways the surveys have helped:

    Surveys show us the “felt needs” of preteens that need to be addressed from a Biblical perspective in our teaching

    Surveys give insight to what teaching methods are most effective for the group and what methods are “duds”

    Surveys provide encouragement for our small group leaders as they see proof that their students are “getting it”

    Surveys give preteens a chance to communicate what they’re learning and give input into the direction of the ministry

    Surveys give preteens an opportunity to think through the life application of what the Bible is teaching them

What method(s) do you use to evaluate your ministry?

This post is a discussion on pornography that was originally posted last May. You can also see Part 2 of this post for tips on protecting your preteens
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The pornography industry is a $14 billion business. It is estimated that 42.7% of internet users view pornography. It is literally ripping apart marriages and families every second.

Here are some of the facts about preteens and pornography…

• Average age of first Internet exposure to pornography: 11 years old

• 15-17 year olds having multiple hard-core exposures: 80%

• 8-16 year olds having viewed porn online: 90%

• Nine out of 10 children aged between eight and 16 have viewed pornography on the Internet.

• In most cases, the sex sites were accessed unintentionally when a child, often in the process of doing homework, used a seemingly innocent sounding word to search for information or pictures.
(Data from London School of Economics January 2002)

• The fourth most-searched word on the Internet for kids ages 7 and under in 2009 was “porn.”

• For all kids up to age 18, sex was No. 4, porn No. 5.

• A recent survey found that 30% of girls ages 9 to 15 years old had sent or received sexual messages or photos of themselves.

• 1 of every 3 that reported to receive “sext” messages said that they accidentally received the message that was intended for someone else.
(Data from OnlineFamily.Norton.com and research from AK Tweens)

Be sure to check out Protecting Your Preteen from Pornography for strategies on keeping porn out of your home.


Last weekend, I spoke at a 5th and 6th Grade retreat in Missouri. I ate dinner with the students on Friday night, and I just happened to sit down at a table of 5th and 6th grade girls. I quickly realized that two of the girls were not eating. I made a joking comment about how the food didn’t taste that bad, but their response was they didn’t want to eat because they were dieting. An adult leader at the same table said, “What have I told you about skipping meals and being on a diet!” I quickly realized that this was not a onetime thing, this was a war.

Research from Dr. Terry Bravender, assistant professor of pediatrics at Duke University Medical Center in Durham, N.C. and medical director of Duke Eating Disorders Program, has found that 40% of 9- and 10-year-olds claim to be on a diet for weight-loss.

In an interview with HealthDay News, Dr. Bravender said, “It’s an unfortunate trend, but we’re finding that girls are becoming concerned about body image and dieting at ages as young as 7 or 8.”

Whether you have preteen girls or boys, here are a few things to consider:

1) Examine their Circle of Influence
Many preteens that struggle with appearance or weight do so because of outside influences. Stay involved and know who your preteen is hanging out with. You may also want to monitor the media influences received by your preteen. Preteens receive a distorted view of beauty and attractiveness from media. There will always be pressure on preteens, but parents and leaders must fight to limit negative influence as much as possible.

2) Start a Conversation
You will not be able to avoid pressure and influence from negative sources, so get to talking. The best defense is a strong offense. While some conversations may be necessary on healthy habits or good hygiene, avoid using stinging comments to motivate your preteen. Many adults can trace their struggle with eating disorders or weight management back to a phrases or comments made by their parents during preteen years. Instead, start talking to your preteen about beauty and appearance in the way that Scripture describes it. Use Psalm 139:14, 1 Samuel 16:7, Proverbs 31:3, or 1 Peter 3:3-4.

3) Change Your Own Habits
When speaking to preteens, I used to refer to myself as the “chubby, bald guy.” It would usually get a laugh out of them, and I thought it showed that I was comfortable with my own body enough to joke about it. WRONG! What I was really doing was labeling myself as chubby and setting a standard of appearance and beauty that would be passed on to those preteens. If your preteen is struggling with appearance and talking about dieting, take a moment to examine your own habits that they might be observing. Spend a day journaling the times that you look in the mirror, talk about weight or appearance, comments made about the weight or appearance of yourself or others, etc. You may not realize how much thought you give to weight and appearance, but chances are your preteen has noticed.

4) Get Help
According to Dr. Bravender, eating disorders typically emerge during 2 stressful periods in life, puberty and transition from high school to college. As preteens move through puberty, you may notice them struggle with the changes happening in their body. If your preteen has become over-obsessed with weight loss or body image, do not ignore these signs. Find a counselor or nutritionist that can help your family. Do whatever you can to restore the self-image of your preteen and reverse the damaging effects.